Should Family Members Or Any Of the In-laws Live With The Couples?

Getting married is one blissful and enjoyable moment every persons wish to experience. Newly wedded couples are happy that they are finally together after so many hurdles. And this is the time they probably want to start knowing each other better.

But the question is ‘should your family members or your any of your in-laws live with you?’
This question might not get exactly the same answer as people’s thought and plans are quite different.
So, my thoughts might not be the same as yours. And don’t forget to tell me your thoughts on this using the comment box.

In-laws may be of great help especially to newly married couples who are just starting and are finding it a bit hard to cater for themselves. But is the idea of living with them really a good one? In some cases, it might be a good decision as you will be able to gather some assistance from them. And also, in some cases it’s not advisable to live with them.

Here are my reasons why married couples should not live with their family members.

#1. Privacy is needed

Every couple will definitely agree with me that they really need a lot of privacy in their life. But when in-laws and family members are around, you will find out that privacy won’t be guaranteed for the couples.
When in-laws are around, most couples find it hard to spend quality time together. And in most cases when family members are around, couples find it hard to tell them to give them space. So, it’s better if couples don’t live together with their in-laws.

In terms of planning on how the home is going to look like, couples need privacy. And sometimes, we see that most family members are always inquisitive to know what’s going on with the couples and what plans they are making. To avoid such interruption, it’s advisable that family members should be distant from couples.

#2. Over interference

It’s such an ugly scene when you see couples been interfered by their in-laws virtually in every matter. And you will be finding it tougher with them when kids start coming in. And then, you will notice the high level of interference family members or in-laws will start dictating to you on how you will bring up the kids. The duty of training the kids the way you desire will no longer be in your hands but your in-laws will be the one training the kids in their own style.

I'm not saying it’s not good to have them around during birth period but in the long run, it will be harder for you when you let them live permanently with you.

#3. Disrespect 

In the first time, the relationship between the couples and the in-laws is cordial and friendly and everyone is happy and ready to assist anyone. But you never can be sure that this cordial relationship will continue. In the long run, couples will start getting disrespect from in-laws and likewise the in-laws will not even get any respect from the couples as well.
To avoid such, it is better that couples are quite separated from their in-laws. This will at least command a lot of respect from their in-laws.


Now you have seen some of my reasons why I don’t advise couples to live together with their family members. If there is anything I'm missing, kindly use the comment box.

 Or you don’t agree with me, please feel free to say your suggestions..


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