Many couples who have been in wed-lock for quite a good number of years might be faced with great challenges that could eventually lead to their divorce. If these challenges between couples are not taken care of, it could break the marriage and this will in no doubt affect the children somehow.
It is said that when two elephants fight, the grass suffers it
Children feel disturbed when their parents are not living in peace and they hope to see that their parents would sort out the problem without separating. But what now happens when husband and wife are not able to fix their problems? We see that there is much tendency that the marriage will clash forcing them to divorce.
Some of the list of effects I will be explaining here might not be really found in your children after your divorce, but there is a great chance that they will. Check them out below:
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#1. They might face academic challenges
Children whose parents get divorced are been faced with academic challenges. They tend to have low grades in school as a result of no parents to cater for their academic needs like helping them with their assignment and encouraging them as well. I was a victim of this. My education was brought to a halt before I later got the money to sponsor myself.Kids with both parents together are always happy with their studies and their brain is relaxed and focused but when there is a divorce, the children suffer academically.
#2. They might be influenced negatively
Whether they're kids or grown up adults, they are prone to social vises and all manner of juvenile crimes. Why is this so? They have no both parents to advise and caution them and so they go in the wrong path committing crimes against the law.Also, members of bad gangs might also like to invite them since they know know one to shut them up.
#2. They might suffer child abuse
Children whose parent are apart tend to suffer child abuse from maybe their relatives or other people around. This won’t happen if both parents settled their differences amicably without involving divorce into it. They're going to be monitored well. Who would also wants to abuse them in the presence of their parent?#3. They develop emotional problems
Children experience emotional distress and disorder which could probably last for a long time. Even as old as I am, I still feel the pain sometimes inside me. The truth is that, kids who watch their parents get divorced feel a lot of pains in their heart knowing full well that they won’t be both parents to take care of them. Though some kids might do well in school even after the divorce of their parents, but honestly they face deep emotional trauma afterwards.
#4. Marriage might be worthless to them
Hmm... And only God knows why I'm not married yet. Children who watch their parents break up view marriage as worthless and so they tend to appreciate premarital sex more than been chaste. They now have the feeling that getting into marriage would definitely be a waste of time and effort because in the end they might also break up with their spouse. But if parents are able to solve their problems in a more understanding way, the children will also imbibe that attitude and they will have no fear of getting married in the near future.#4. They might feel unsecured and abandoned
There is always a feeling of abandonment when children witness their parents’ divorce. And this feeling worsens when either of the couple gets married to another person (a step parent). The children would have to face another home totally different from their previous homes; they would have to face another father or mother; they would have to face another stepbrothers and stepsisters and step grandparents.When children are faced with all these, they feel unsecured and abandoned.
Going for a second marriage due to the divorce could bring emotional complications for children. When divorced parents go on pursuing another relationship, a feeling of abandonment is always seen in the life of the children.
#5. They begin to live with worries
Children don't always easily get over the effects caused by their parents divorce. The good times they used to enjoy with both parents all lost. When children look back to all the special events, going on vacations, attending marriage ceremonies, graduations, sports events and see that they won’t be able to enjoy them anymore, they feel sorrowful and mourn for the loss.Parents could easily adjust to all these changes because it is they that take the decision, and don't always care about what happens to the children afterwards? They will always find it difficult to adjust.
#7. They might loose all hope in you
Children strongly believe that their parents are always able to find the right solutions to their differences when it arises and that no matter the weight of the problems; they believe their parents are capable of handling them.The faith the children has on the parents gets down the drain if couples are not able to handle their problems rightly. Instead of finding the best solution to their differences, they accept divorce as the only alternative, a very bad decision.
What parents might see as the best possible way out of the problem might greatly be disastrous in the lives of children. ‘One dad, one mom’ is what every kid wants.
Do you want to create a life of discomfort for your children? Do you want them to start leaving in shock as a result of the wrong decision you're about to take?
Dear reader who intends to divorce your spouse because of a million reason, have a second thought on tour children before you do.
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