Tips To Become Popular In Your School

So many students have struggled to become popular in their schools but instead, they are known as something else at the end of the day. You might be thinking "who being popular epp"? It really matters for those who know it.

I was one of the most popular nigga when I was in school, and I know the several ways that it helped me. Want to know too?

Benefits of being popular in high schools

There are several benefits one can derived from being popular in school. Among the benefits I got are :

• I had a large numbers of friends. 

Is that really a benefit? Yes, it is. When I started to have the large numbers of friends, I wondered what I would use them for. It got to a certain time I needed help, many hands were raised for me. Many stood for me in times of help. Had it being I didn't have large numbers of friends, what would have happened when I felt broke? I'd always find someone to ask me if I had eaten. 

So many textbook were bought for me. Many school bills were paid. Many shopping I had. All done by friends. 

• Most staffs and students saw me as their favourite 

Even freshers and new staff found it difficult not to like me, not to talk of existing staffs and students. I gained more confidence to do anything because I knew I would be supported even if I did wrong. I didn't have to worry about being bored. I didn't have to worry about not finding a partner for a class project. I would always have someone to hang out with. They would surely want to be around me. I was more confident than I had ever been. 

• I had a greater chance of getting a boo

If I wished to pick either short or tall, I had it all. They never said no (I didn't know why). Most ladies would even woo me themselves. Most seduced and tempted me. Most wanted me to be their love. Most would not want me to lack anything

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• Being Popular could make you get a post in school 

Find out, people who hold posts in schools are the most popular in school. You want to be a Chancellor or just a secondary school prefect/class rep, you need people to know you (popular) before you're voted for. Or when you're not popular, who else would vote you? 

Are these not enough as benefits of being popular? Stop reading this post. Otherwise, 

Know the tips to become popular in high school 

#1. Be kindly and jovial to everyone 

It is when you're kind that people will refer you to people. When people refer you to other people, you're gaining your popularity. 

You also need to be friendly enough. Don't be wicked to people around you. Do goods and rights. This is how people can always have you in mind. 

#2. Be a bit brilliant 

If you're kind and friendly (jovial) enough and you're not brilliant in anything, you may just be known as a dollard (a negative popularity) 

You don't need to know everything before they call you a brilliant person. All you need is to know something in almost everything. There are many ways to be become brilliant at your studies. It shall be discussed in the later posts.

#3. Be very funny amidst groups of people

Another key to become known in school is when people confess to you, that you're funny. When you do some funny things; make funny comments that'll put a smile on people's face, those who laugh to what you do/say severally are in higher state to remember you easily.

People who remember you could likely remember your name. People who remember your name could likely tell their friends about you. Gradually, you're becoming popular.

#4. Dress neatly to gain attention

Always dress neatly to classes and maintain a good hygiene. You can be neat to be noticed. Let them say "the guy likes forming" - a comment that supports your aim.

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#5. Walk with popular people

You can also become known when you walk with those that people know already. Be friendly enough to them. Be loyal and truthful to them. When people ask them - who is he(i.e, you)? - they know you too.

#6. Join extra curricular activities

School's extra curricular activities can also make you become known by students,especially when you're active. Do what other students do too. Many people will also know you through joining extra curricular activities.

Joining clubs like football clubs, basketball clubs, drench clubs, jet clubs would expose you to wider range of people than limiting your popularity to only your department


You can let me know how you feel about these tips to become popular in high school in the comment.  Ontm to my next posts

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10 Interesting Facts About Virgins. I Bet You Don't Know Most Of Them

The list of the interesting facts about Virgins you're about to read is compiled by my own research. I took my time in asking some Virgins and non-virgins I know. And that was when I realised the truth that myself do not know many of these things.

I believe reading these list to the end would put some thoughts in your mind. Please feel very free to let me know via your comments. They would be highly welcomed.

Here goes the facts :

#. 1 Virgins are always in anticipation to know who would deflower them.

Virgins (both males and females) always ask this rhetoric question in their inner thoughts - who could he or she be? Is it from my state/country or another? This question might not be asked outspoken, but in the inner part - they ask. 

Seriously, isn't it right to know that person that'll be one to take your virginity - what most call there PRIDE? 

#2.They can never forget the person who deflower them. 

I asked many non-virgins, "can you forget who deflowered you"? Most of the answers I got is" No" - mostly from women. But why is this so? The truth should be told, let's assume you have a big wound mark on your body that has leaves an unremovable  mark on your body, can you easily forget who put it there? Honestly, for females, it's hard for them to forget who tore their hymen (a sacred tissue in their body)


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#3. They (females)  always imagine how painful their first sex would be

Funny enough! I asked a lady of about 24 years old "why are you still a Virgin"? She said, "I don't know how painful it'd be. People do say it's painful ad I don't want to feel pains". She was telling me with fear of pain in her face. 

Most female Virgins will always imagine how painful their first sex would be. And in this way, mostly still don't want to have their first sex when they are told of this pain.

#4.How enjoyable their first sex is, is what determines how much they'd love sex

When I asked some, "do you love sex after you're now deflowered"? I realised that people who said NO did not enjoy their first sex and people who said YES really enjoyed it. 

I also didn't believe this is real, until I made the research. And now, I believe. 

#5. Not all female Virgins bleed on their first sex

A guy once ran to me, to confirm if her lady was a Virgin. He said the lady told him she was a Virgin, and that day he got her deflowered but couldn't see a drop of blood. Out of ignorance, I supported that she was not. 

Little did I knew that, not all female Virgins bleed on their first sex. Some would bleeds, while some would not. This is confirmed through the group of people I interrogated.


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#6. Most of them note the date they got deflowered 

I ever wonder why most people, especially ladies still remember the date they lost their virginity. Is it that so important? Yes,  of course! It is. 

Losing one's virginity is something that really worths to be remembered. Why? Because, it can only be lost once and forever. 

#7. After their first sex, they either feel guilty or satisfied. Conscience tells immediately. 

If you have ever had a sex with a Virgin, you should know how they feel. It's either they are moody or feel excited about the sex they just had. 

In one of the story books I wrote, I remembered how I described Kate when she lost her virginity to Thomas. She was like, "did I do the right thing, Hope I've not misbehaved"? And all sort of questions came through her mind. 

It's really hard not to feel somehow when you do a thing for the first time. 

#8. Most will not forget the place they got deflowered 

I asked one woman of about 48 years old, "Ma, where did you got deflowered"? She didn't even struggle to remember before she came to a conclusion. I was astonished! 

So, most people do not always forget where they got deflowered? I only thought it's only the person they deflowered them, that they might not forget. Do you also remember yours? 

#9. Most Virgins masturbates unknowingly 

It is real! This always happen to most Virgins who watch movies that contains sexual movements.

While they're alone and think of these movies, they touch or rub their sexual organs to give them the sexual pleasure they desire. 

While some knows this is called maturation, some do not. Were you guilty of this when you were a Virgin? 

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#10. Most men don't like to deflower Virgin ladies

Never misquote me in this area. I did not say ALL men!  The research I made let me understand that most men wouldn't want to date a Virgin. 

I asked some male friends who are experts in sex (when I say experts, you should know who they are), "what would you do if you fall in love with a Virgin"? The answers I got were very funny.

One said he would give the girl permission to allow another person to deflower her, and then come back to him. Another one said he would blame himself for falling in love with such person. One even said he can never fall into such victim because, it is before he falls in love that he makes enquiry about the lady's virginity. Funny, indeed. 

Whao! The list doesn't end here. There are many interesting facts about Virgins. You can add yours too in the comment section. I shall update the post after review. 

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Students, Be warned! Never Let Your Background Put Your Back To Ground

Every serious student has the dream of reaching their desired goals successfully. But in most cases, there might be some challenges that tend to discourage most students.

These challenges will appear real, and if a student is not firm in their decision to be academically successful, they will be brought down in no time.

Most of these challenges that tend to deter a student from the journey of been successful are the challenge that comes from family background. The background of a student could greatly affect the student’s performance in school and if they are not aware about these challenges that may result from their background, could lead them to failing academically.

It’s often said that if the foundation of a building is solid, there won’t be any fear of the house falling down. Likewise a student, if the background is solid, there won’t be any fear of a final failure.


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There are some background challenges or issues you need to watch out as a student and beware of them. Some of them might appear to be a stumbling block to your academic growth. You need to know the challenges in your background before they put your back to the ground.

#1   Income background: 

Some students have the interest to go to school but are not in school. This could be a background challenge to most students who are already in school but are not meeting up with the financial demands of the school.

In most cases, students are discouraged and think of giving on their studies as a result of financial challenge.

This challenge could force some students out of school causing them to abandon their dreams and planned career.

Students need to be deeply aware of this so as not to allow it affect their education

#2.   Educational background:

Not all parents went to school and so, are not able to read and write. And most cases, it affects young children who are just growing up because no educated parent to guide them in their assignments, pronouncing of words correctly and making good sentences.

As a student, you need to be careful as not to allow this limitation cause you downfall in your academic life.

If both parents are educated, they will in no doubt lay a good foundation for their children. But a situation where the parents are not educated, a student needs to beware and know how to handle his or her academic problems.


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#3.   Parent’s marital background:

This could go a long way in affecting a student. Students should also beware and be warned as allowing their parent’s marital issues to cripple their academic pursuit.

I talked about The 7 Common Effects Of Divorce On Children here. I also discuss  The 5 Causes Of Marital Breakup And 14 Tips To Prevent Them Here. You can help your parents by referring these articles to them, maybe they might Learn

Sudents should also be warned of the effects of broken home, single parent, polygamous homes in their academic life. In my next articles, I'd dicuss with you what to avoid, as a student, when you're in a polygamous family. 

Having an earlier understanding of your background will help you divert yourself from its unfavorable effects. Be warned!

However, you may have one or two things you want to add or ask, do not hesitate. Simple hit the comment box below. I'd be there to attend to you. 

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5 Things That Happen When Your Relationship Clocks 2 Years, No 4 Will Suprise You

Getting into a relationship that is safe and secure is what everyone wishes to have. Sometimes, relationships are sweet and more romantic in the first year. During the first year, the lovers are just getting to know each other, their likes and dislikes. During this period as well, date nights never cease, as both lovers always want to be with each other.

Relationship at a start is always filled with curiosity as whether it'll eventually going to lead to marriage.

When a new relationship is able to pass the first year and heading to the second year without breakup, we see some changes begins to occur between the lovers. Both lovers no longer tend to be curious as they were, in the first year. These are some of the changes that tend to occur when a relationship clocks two years.



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1.      Lovers are no longer surprised

In the first year or when the relationship is just starting, you will notice that lovers are always astonished with what the other lover does. It’s normal,  because you are just getting to know each other. So, what your lover does in a new relationship becomes a surprise to you.

Sometimes, if a lover is fond of buying chocolate for their partner in the first year relationship, but when that relationship clocks two years, you will observe that buying of those chocolates will no longer be a surprise to the partners.

2.      Lovers are sure of the future

Like I said, a new relationship is filled with curiosity and the question of staying together in the future is there. During this time, both lovers are not quite sure as to whether their dating relationship will lead them to marriage. And so, they are curious.

But during the second year, some changes begin to occur. Both lovers have decided and might now be sure of their decision. This time, they might no longer be curious as to whether or not they will be together.

3.      Fights are no longer serious

Relationships come with a lot of problems and misunderstandings. In the second year of their relationship, lovers are no longer thinking of breaking up as it used to be in the first year when if there is a little problem, they think of breaking up.

The relationship has now become matured and both lovers have seen the need to fixing their problems in a more peaceful and quiet manner instead of thinking of ‘break up’.

4.      Been naked is no longer a big deal

Most lovers who are new into a relationship find it hard to get naked in front of each other. Sometimes they are shy or never wanted their partner to see something.

But as the relationship smoothly proceeds further, we notice some changes as to getting naked in front of each other.

Lovers are no longer shy to pull off their clothes in front of each other.

During this time as well, having sex might also no longer be a new thing to both lovers. They’ve known each other for quite a long time and so, might no longer going to bother them even if they are going to have sex in a broad day light.


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5.      No more secrets

Some little secrets may not be told during a new relationship, but once it pass the first year and getting into the second year, lovers probably might no longer be afraid to tell their secrets out. Everyone becomes open to each other now.

This time, the truth is told when the need arises and both lovers are happy sharing intimacy with each other.


However, there could still be more things that might happen when your relationship clocks two years. You can simply add yours in the comment section and we will update the post as soon as we review it.

Don't also forget to share this article to your friends.

Stay blessed! 

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Students! Reasons Why You Must Not Allow Your Parents To Choose Your Choice Of Carrier

Is it really right for parents to choose choice of carrier for their children in school? 

This is the little question that brings about this write up. I think everyone is going to learn from this. Tell your parents NO, if you already have a dream and yet, they want to choose for you.

"There is no doubt that parents are very important to the growth and development of their children. Parents are greatly responsible for how well a child develops both physically and mentally. Educationally, is it right for parent to choose choose of career for their children?

We all know that parents also play a big role in influencing a child’s thought towards choosing a career. Most parents get it wrong when they try forcing a career on their child’s life.

Most children’s lives have been ruined as a result of the career that was imposed on them by their parents.

When it comes to choosing a career, a child should be decisive as to what he or she wants. A child should not accept any career choice just because it came from their parents. Don’t be pressurised into choosing a career that is not of your interest because in the long-run, you may not do well in that career.

Though, parents could a lot be demanding, but in the issue of picking a career, it solely lies in the hands of the child.

Most parents forcefully impose a career on a child just to make sure that their (parents) dreams are fulfilled. While some parents look into the large amount of money that would be coming in, so they want their child to take the career at all cost.

There are many reasons why parents forcefully impose a career on their child, but whatever the reasons maybe, it is not right to force a child into taking a career out of their own personal will.

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Below are some of the reasons why you must not allow your parents to make the decision of choosing a career for you.

#1. Gifts and Talents Are Different

Naturally, not everybody is endowed with the same gifts and talents. A parent’s talents may not be the same with the child’s. Now, if parents are making the decision of your career, they will do so out of the understanding of their own talents which in most cases, the talents and gifts of the child would not be considered.

When a different career is been imposed on a child whose skills and talents are not in line with the career, you will find out that the child’s original gift becomes a waste. And believe me; you won’t do well in the career that was imposed on you.

In the real sense, a child’s talents and creativity should be properly guided by the parents.

#2. Parents' Dream Are Fulfilled Instead

 Like I said, there are so many reasons why parents impose a career on their child. No matter what and how the reasons may be, don’t allow it. You know why? You will definitely end up fulfilling your parent’s dreams and not yours.

Let's look at it this way, your parents dreamt of becoming a medical doctor and due to one problem or the other, that dream was not achieved. Now it comes to you, you have a dream of becoming a lawyer. And the passion and interest are there.

Because of the lost achievement of your parents, they are forcefully imposing on you to become a medical doctor of which you unwillingly accept. In this case, you’ve ended up fulfilling another person’s dreams and not yours.



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#3. You Might End Up Failing

When you get into a career that isn’t your real intent, you will end up failing in it. Why is it so? It’s so because, the interest and passion is not there. And if the interest of an imposed career is not there in you, the zeal to work will not also be there. And this will totally lead to big failure as a result of allowing your parents to choose a career for you.

The truth is that if you don’t love a career and you probably get into it due to your parent’s imposition, you will burn out in no time, become weary and just look at your original dream dwindles away.

When it comes to choosing a career, the choice is all up to you. You make the decision knowing full well that it is based on your own interest and not on the interest of your parents.

Your parents are there to assist and guide you in the choice you’ve taken and not to compel you into choosing a career that is out of your will."

Did you now se the main reason why I don't really like it if some parents forcefully dictate choice of carrier for their children? Probably, that's the reason I followed my mind. Imagine! My dad wanted me to be a mechanical engineer while my mom supported it. Now, I'm a blogger today. I'm a motivational speaker today. And I'm living fine.

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Ladies!! Never Do These 7 Things If You Want Him To Marry You

In the world we are today, marriage is no longer what people, especially men get into without having some second thoughts as to who they want to marry. Marriage is not like a game that you can easily quit at any time. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and devotion to each other. But some ladies do not know that there are some things they must not do, if they want their man to marry them. 

When it comes to the issue of getting married to a woman, most men take their time in concluding if the woman is right or wrong for them.

A man can be dating a woman for such a long time. Their relationship is going smooth but before the man puts a ring on the finger of the woman, he must have thought deeply and come to the conclusion that the woman is the right for him. The truth is that a man can date any woman but when it comes to marriage, they are selective. Dating is quite different from marriage - it's a lifetime journey.

Believe me, every man is more concerned about a woman’s character and qualities before thinking of getting married to her. So, no matter how beautiful and pretty a woman is, if she doesn’t possess the right qualities m, she probably might not get the right man to marry her.



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As a woman, there are some things you have to avoid if you really want your man to marry you. If you want your relationship to move on to the next level, that is from ‘dating’ to ‘marriage’, you need to avoid these things :

#1. Don't be "over-dependent" on him

Most women in relationship believe the common saying -  "He is the man and should provide all my needs".  This belief is so wrong. The fact that he is the man does not mean he has to cater for all of your needs. Dear ladies, your relationship is not a business opportunity. 

Been over-dependent, shows that you cannot meet up your needs without him. It shows that you are not even capable of providing your own personal needs let alone the needs of the family.

Men hate it when a woman is so much depending on them. It tells a man that you are lazy and cannot find ways of meeting up  your needs by yourself.

If you want him to marry you, learn to work and provide your needs yourself. In doing so, you won’t have to keep begging the man to provide your needs. You will also command great respect from the man.

#2. Don't disrespect him, for any reason 

Every man has his own rules and regulations and it’s the desire of every man that these rules are respected. If he's a type that sets boundaries, do well to respect them. If there are times he needs some privacy, respect that too. 

No man likes it when they're disrespected. In his presence of absence, all they desire is respect. Let his people know he has someone who respects him if nobody does.

In doing so, you are telling him how valued he is to you.

If you want your man to marry you, learn to respect him.



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#3. Don't ever disappoint him

The kind of person he has known you for, that made you worthy for him to woo, don't change it. It's disappointment.

I really wonder why some women, if after they surely know that a man is interested in them, begin to behave fakery. Then after some time, they come back to their true personality.

If he has placed a complete trust on you, do well not to fail him. In doing so, he can boldly tell his friends and families how disciplined you are.

#4. Don't pressurise him to marry you

The fact that you want him to marry you does not mean you will have to force him. If you are desperate, he will know and men don’t like desperate women.

He might not want to marry you if you keep putting pressure on him, especially in a rude way. He could easily change his mind.

Do the best you can, give him some space and give him some polite reminders about your marriage. You will be surprised to see him kneel before you one day with a golden ring on his hands for you.

#5. Don't be a talkative in his presence

Relationships always encounter some problems along the way. And the reaction of the woman will tell if that relationship can still continue or not.

If there is a problem between you and him, always listen to the man first, don’t shout. After sometime when the situation is calm, you can now speak with a low and calm voice. He will listen to you. 

Note that, no man would want to marry a ‘ranting’ woman.


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#6. Don't let him notice your love for money

Even after he marry you, never let your man know how much your love for money is. Some women get it wrong when they pursue men with money, without considering his love.

If you want your man to marry you, show him that his love and commitment is more important to you than the money.

If you are only thinking about what comes out from his pocket, then you are wrong. He might not marry you.

#7. Don't argue with him,  especially in public

Never make the mistake to argue with him whenever he's mad at you. You should not argue with him even if you're also boiling. Calm yourself down. 

I don't even know what is wrong with some men when they shout at someone and expect the person to keep quiet. Yeah, that true. But you have to accept your fate and do what they like since you still want him to marry you. Men love it when their woman calms while they're boiling. 

Has he also promised to marry you a long time ago, but yet he hasn't? It might be one of these things that you're doing that's making you to doubt if he would marry you. Check yourself and balance the imbalances. 

Have anything to say about these that ladies should never do if they want their man to marry them? Feel free to express your mind in the comment section. You can also use your Facebook account to comment. Have nice weeks ahead. 

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6 Best Ways To Fully Prepare For Examinations

Examinations are mostly taken in order to ascertain a student’s performance in school. Examinations also go a long way in determining if a student is to be promoted or demoted and it mostly define if a student is serious or not.

Exams play an important role in the academic life of any student and the effort made towards it can make or mar a student’s career pursuit.

As a student who wants to excel academically, you should consider taking keen interest in the right ways you can prepare fully for exams.
You might have gotten the wrong teaching that "exams need no preparation" and that you can always pass by luck. Well, I want to tell you that a student who is more prepared for exam is better off than the one who never made any preparations.

There are many ways in which you can get yourself prepared for exams. And no matter the kind of exam it is, you can always make use of these steps below:

#1. Be Ready Before Time

A student who wants to make excellent marks in exam should not wait until the very last minute before they are ready.

Some students feel that reading before exams is a burden to them and so they tend to leave the reading on the day of exam. This kind of approach towards exam isn’t the best way at all.

There are many ways you can be ready. Among them are  planning and following your time-table; getting ready all the necessities needed for the exam like textbook, work-books, pencil, pen etc; and so many other ways.

#2. Avoid Distraction

When preparing for exams, it’s important that all forms of distractions should be avoided. The distraction could come from your families, your friends at school, electronic gadgets at home like TV etc. Avoid them all.

Locate a quiet place where you read and understand. During the period before your exams, you have to be very careful as not to pick a fight with someone, which might probably result to severe injury thereby compelling you not to focus on the exam ahead.

Avoid distraction from lazy friends that depends on luck; avoid distraction from your phones and the social media as well. Avoid anything that will have much effect on your thoughts.
By so doing, you can be prepared for any exams.

#3. Work On Past Questions and Answers

Today, most examinations that are set for students are taken from previous year exams. Working on past questions is an effective way to prepare for any kind of examination. Working on past questions and answer also makes you to understand the style and format of the questions and it also provide the correct approach to every of the questions.

When practicing on past questions, make sure to work with the allotted time set. Doing this will make you prepared to answer the questions within the time limit.

#4. Join Study Groups

You can do well to form study groups with some students or better still join with some groups of dedicated students who are serious.
During this time of your reading together, you might have questions to ask, ask the group and there is every tendency that you will get a positive answer.
Joining study groups can as well be a challenge to you, because you might meet with people who are more intelligent than you are. And you have to pick this challenge to study real harder.

#5. Avoid Multi-tasking Your Brain

Take your reading step by step. Don’t go bringing out books that are not related and reading them all together. In doing so, you would be stressing the brain and giving it a hard time to focus on one.

Avoid your phones, gadgets and every other thing that might get your brain working on them.

#6. Take Enough Sleep

During every sleeping hour, your brain gets to absorb all that you’ve read. Having a good sleep also refreshes your brain and also prepares your memory to recall all that you’ve read during the examination.

Also, don’t go dehydrated, drink plenty of water, and keep fit both physically and emotionally.


Going for an examination needs a lot of your preparations and the level of your preparations can determine how well you can do in the exams.
I believe these steps are of great importance before preparing for any examinations.

You can always let me hear from you through the comment section below

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3 Main Things That Prompts Your Partner To Take A Divorce Decision

A divorce decision is not a kind of decision taken and executed in an eye - blink. Before your spouse can summon the courage to tell you "I want a divorce" or "pack your things and go", there would be so many times s/he would think about it. Now what could make him/her to think about the dreadful decision in the first place? This post is designed to answer this question. So, keep reading

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Easy ways to pass Objective Questions 

When it comes to objective questions otherwise known as multiple choice questions, students are happy and full of hopes that all is well. Why is it so? Probably, it has options that only require you to tick one out of the some few given options.

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Should Family Members Or Any Of the In-laws Live With The Couples?

Getting married is one blissful and enjoyable moment every persons wish to experience. Newly wedded couples are happy that they are finally together after so many hurdles. And this is the time they probably want to start knowing each other better.

But the question is ‘should your family members or your any of your in-laws live with you?’
This question might not get exactly the same answer as people’s thought and plans are quite different.
So, my thoughts might not be the same as yours. And don’t forget to tell me your thoughts on this using the comment box.

In-laws may be of great help especially to newly married couples who are just starting and are finding it a bit hard to cater for themselves. But is the idea of living with them really a good one? In some cases, it might be a good decision as you will be able to gather some assistance from them. And also, in some cases it’s not advisable to live with them.

Here are my reasons why married couples should not live with their family members.

#1. Privacy is needed

Every couple will definitely agree with me that they really need a lot of privacy in their life. But when in-laws and family members are around, you will find out that privacy won’t be guaranteed for the couples.
When in-laws are around, most couples find it hard to spend quality time together. And in most cases when family members are around, couples find it hard to tell them to give them space. So, it’s better if couples don’t live together with their in-laws.

In terms of planning on how the home is going to look like, couples need privacy. And sometimes, we see that most family members are always inquisitive to know what’s going on with the couples and what plans they are making. To avoid such interruption, it’s advisable that family members should be distant from couples.

#2. Over interference

It’s such an ugly scene when you see couples been interfered by their in-laws virtually in every matter. And you will be finding it tougher with them when kids start coming in. And then, you will notice the high level of interference family members or in-laws will start dictating to you on how you will bring up the kids. The duty of training the kids the way you desire will no longer be in your hands but your in-laws will be the one training the kids in their own style.

I'm not saying it’s not good to have them around during birth period but in the long run, it will be harder for you when you let them live permanently with you.

#3. Disrespect 

In the first time, the relationship between the couples and the in-laws is cordial and friendly and everyone is happy and ready to assist anyone. But you never can be sure that this cordial relationship will continue. In the long run, couples will start getting disrespect from in-laws and likewise the in-laws will not even get any respect from the couples as well.
To avoid such, it is better that couples are quite separated from their in-laws. This will at least command a lot of respect from their in-laws.


Now you have seen some of my reasons why I don’t advise couples to live together with their family members. If there is anything I'm missing, kindly use the comment box.

 Or you don’t agree with me, please feel free to say your suggestions..


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Things to Tell You're Doing The Wrong Job

Most people on the first period when they get an employment are happy and full of hopes. And they start making plans as to what to do when they get their first pay check.
Along the line, you might find out that these people who were once happy when they got the job are now sad and find no pleasure doing their job anymore.

If you are in this category, then this article is for you.
Actually when people are no longer finding pleasure in their job, they are afraid of changing; they are in between making a change or remaining in their present job.

If you're really doing the right job, there is full happiness and enthusiasm to do more. That's why it's always advisable to do works you love doing most.

There is probably no job that I can say is perfect, but the truth is that there can be one that soothes you better. Your job ought to be the one that would satisfy you and make you feel you want to work more.

But what are the signs to tell you that you're  in the wrong job?
There are many signs to tell you, some of them are when :

#1. You loose interest and passion 

You will know that you are in the wrong job when you get this ugly feeling every Sunday evenings. You become the "I hate Mondays" person. Your prayer is that Monday should not come when you could get back to work. When you are having this feelings, it shows you are doing the wrong job.

Or you notice that the passion which you once had for the company or organization is no longer there. You no longer believe in the services or products your job gives, then that is also a good sign that you are in the wrong job.

#2. You have no or clear communication

 When you are in the right job, you will find it easier to communicate with your co-workers. But when you are in the wrong job, communication with your colleagues would be a tug of war. When you're not happy, how could you communicate very clearly to people? Certainly, you must be happy if you're really doing the right job.

#3. You become a time watcher

Most times you might be eager to leave the work at hand and all the time in the office you keep watching the time and your prayer is that time should fly so fast so that you could go home.
This is definitely a sign that you are in the wrong job. It shows that your job is no longer giving you joy and happiness.

#4. There's  a feeling of jealousy

When you are in the wrong job, you will know when you start fantasizing other people’s job. And you just have this feeling that their job is better than yours. You become jealous of your friends job and you might start imagining yourself in their job. And when this imagination starts, you will be dull doing your own present job.

#5. Your real talent is wasting

When you feel that your present job is not making use of your talent, then you are in the wrong job. When your talent is wasting away and you know that, then it should be a sign that you are in the wrong job.

#6. There's a feeling of embarrassment

If you always feel embarrassed whenever people ask you what your job is, that is also a sign that your present job is wrong for you. And when you feel embarrassed with their question of what your job is, that shows you are not really satisfied with it.

#7. There's poor or no advancement

When your job is not advancing or growing both internally and externally, it could possibly affect a worker. So, when your present job is not growing to benefit it’s workers, that shows you are in the wrong job.

#8. There's a feeling of been unappreciated

When you are doing a great work for your company or organization and all your efforts are not appreciated, that really shows you are in the wrong job. When your works are unappreciated, it shows that all your efforts towards the growth of that company or organization is been taken for granted.

#9. You can't develop new skills

When your present job is not helping in expanding your skills and making effort for you to acquire more skills that means you are in the wrong job.

Or if also, there's no time for you to develop new skills, you should it's time to change the job.

#10. You loose respect

When you loose  respect for the management of your company or organization that is another sign that you are in the wrong job.

Are there still more signs you want us to know? Share it in comment section and it shall be updated after review. 

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7 Common Effects Of Divorce On Your Children

Many couples who have been in wed-lock for quite a good number of years might be faced with great challenges that could eventually lead to their divorce. If these challenges between couples are not taken care of, it could break the marriage and this will in no doubt affect the children somehow.

It is said that when two elephants fight, the grass suffers it

Children feel disturbed when their parents are not living in peace and they hope to see that their parents would sort out the problem without separating. But what now happens when husband and wife are not able to fix their problems? We see that there is much tendency that the marriage will clash forcing them to divorce.

Some of the list of effects I will be explaining here might not be really found in your children after your divorce, but there is a great chance that they will. Check them out below:

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#1. They might face academic challenges

Children whose parents get divorced are been faced with academic challenges.  They tend to have low grades in school as a result of no parents to cater for their academic needs like helping them with their assignment and encouraging them as well. I was a victim of this. My education was brought to a halt before I later got the money to sponsor myself.

Kids with both parents together are always happy with their studies and their brain is relaxed and focused but when there is a divorce, the children suffer academically.

#2. They might be influenced negatively 

Whether they're kids or grown up adults, they are prone to social vises and all manner of juvenile crimes. Why is this so? They have no both parents to advise and caution them and so they go in the wrong path committing crimes against the law.

Also, members of bad gangs might also like to invite them since they know know one to shut them up.

#2. They might suffer child abuse

Children whose parent are apart tend to suffer child abuse from maybe their relatives or other people around. This won’t happen if both parents settled their differences amicably without involving divorce into it. They're going to be monitored well. Who would also wants to abuse them in the presence of their parent?

#3. They develop emotional problems

Children experience emotional distress and disorder which could probably last for a long time. Even as old as I am, I still feel the pain sometimes inside me. The truth is that, kids who watch their parents get divorced feel a lot of pains in their heart knowing full well that they won’t be both parents to take care of them. Though some kids might do well in school even after the divorce of their parents, but honestly they face deep emotional trauma afterwards.

#4. Marriage might be worthless to them

Hmm... And only God knows why I'm not married yet. Children who watch their parents break up view marriage as worthless and so they tend to appreciate premarital sex more than been chaste. They now have the feeling that getting into marriage would definitely be a waste of time and effort because in the end they might also break up with their spouse. But if parents are able to solve their problems in a more understanding way, the children will also imbibe that attitude and they will have no fear of getting married in the near future.

#4. They might feel unsecured and abandoned

There is always a feeling of abandonment when children witness their parents’ divorce. And this feeling worsens when either of the couple gets married to another person (a step parent). The children would have to face another home totally different from their previous homes; they would have to face another father or mother; they would have to face another stepbrothers and stepsisters and step grandparents.
When children are faced with all these, they feel unsecured and abandoned.

Going for a second marriage due to the divorce could bring emotional complications for children. When divorced parents go on pursuing another relationship, a feeling of abandonment is always seen in the life of the children.

#5. They begin to live with worries

Children don't always easily get over the effects caused by their parents divorce. The good times they used to enjoy with both parents all lost. When children look back to all the special events, going on vacations, attending marriage ceremonies, graduations, sports events and see that they won’t be able to enjoy them anymore, they feel sorrowful and mourn for the loss.

Parents could easily adjust to all these changes because it is they that take the decision, and don't always care about what happens to the children afterwards? They will always find it difficult to adjust.

#7. They might loose all hope in you 

Children strongly believe that their parents are always able to find the right solutions to their differences when it arises and that no matter the weight of the problems; they believe their parents are capable of handling them.

The faith the children has on the parents gets down the drain if couples are not able to handle their problems rightly. Instead of finding the best solution to their differences, they accept divorce as the only alternative, a very bad decision.

What parents might see as the best possible way out of the problem might greatly be disastrous in the lives of children. ‘One dad, one mom’ is what every kid wants.

Do you want to create a life of discomfort for your children? Do you want them to start leaving in shock as a result of the wrong decision you're about to take?

Dear reader who intends to divorce your spouse because of a million reason, have a second thought on tour children before you do.

Don't forget to share this article, to save a marriage today! Always let me hear your say in the comment section.

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