5 Things To Do That Will Lesson Your Break-up Pain

Along the line, relationships could get a little bit tough and if not handled maturely could get tougher and probably break up. We get pissed off and angry with our partner during break-ups and the injury that comes with break-ups seem to have lasting effects depending on how the break-up is been taken.

Most people after a break-up gets too depressed and sad to move on with their life. Though depressions and sadness are normal after breaking up with your partner but in spite of all these, you could better your life, impress yourself by learning one or two things from your past.

What you can learn from a break-up?

A break-up mostly tells us that our partner isn’t perfect neither are we. There is no perfection in any relationship.
Every mistake in a relationship can greatly destroy a relationship and sometimes we just do what we feel not thinking of the effect it has on our relationship.
We ought to know that we are always responsible for how our relationship goes. We are responsible for the happiness in it and the sadness as well.

We could always learn something new whenever we are faced with a break-up.

When your partner has fully decided to break up with you, you don’t have to feel, ‘oh! Why me?’, ‘the world has come to an end’. No, you don’t have to feel that way. You need to pull yourself and move on, knowing very well that it is an opportunity for you to grow.

To avoid getting too depressed and heart-broken, here are the tips you could follow.

Before we go, read the 5 causes of marital break up and 14 ways to prevent them.

#1. Accept your Fate

After breaking up with your partner, don’t go forcing blames on yourself as to what you could have done to avoid the break-up. It happens and it has happened.

Don’t beat yourself up for crying and getting sad - it’s normal and natural that you get sad after a break-up. Learn to accept the feelings that come during this time. You don’t have to worry or try forcing yourself not to feel sad. In accepting your feelings that way, you will find out that in no time, you will gradually get healed from all the depressions and sadness.

#2. Don’t dwell in the past

Instead of thinking and contemplating of what happened in the past, why not focus your mind on the present and then future? Don’t keep bringing the ugly events of your break-up before you. Get your mind off it and stay focus on who you are right now and who to become very soon.

Reminding yourself of the past would only worsen the pains and sadness. Learn to always face the present situation, in that way, you would avoid getting confused.

#3. Do your normal activities

If you’ve been exercising regularly before, continue with it. If you’ve been going to shopping with friends or families, continue with it. If you’ve been going to the library or cinema or games show, continue doing that.

Your break-up shouldn’t affect your everyday activities. If some of all these activities were done with your lover before the break-up, you could ask a family member or a close friend to be with you.

The fact is that continuing with your normal activities would accelerate the healing process.

#4. Go on a wonderful trip

This is one of the best things you could do after a break-up. Instead of sitting around, thinking of what has happened; you can better decide to leave the town for a while. You could visit the tourist centers, zoos, go to see a distant family or close friend, take a trip to the beach.

You just need to take a leave so as to lessen the pains in your heart.

#5. Get them off your phone

Watching their pictures on your cell phone can only worsen the situation. You need to delete everything about them from your phone. Un-friend them from your facebook list and even delete all the chats you had with them. In doing that, you won’t have to face the pains of the past coming into your present life.


 However, it's better to avoid the pains that come after break up than getting rid of it when it comes. Read the 3 main things that make your partner take a break up decision. Do let me know your thoughts via the comment section below.

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5 Top Signs To Note If Your Relationship Would End Up In Marriage

Every relationship has its own pattern and the pattern to which it moves can greatly determine if it will eventually lead to marriage or not. Getting into a relationship is one thing, been happy in that relationship is another thing while having a strong solid and lasting relationship is totally a different thing altogether.

You could be happy in your present relationship, but that doesn’t guarantee that it is going to lead to marriage. A relationship is not expected to go smooth every time, but once it encounters an obstacle or challenge, that is when you could probably decide if the relationship will survive when it eventually gets into marriage.

Today, I will be showing to you the signs you could probably decode to know if your present relationship would finally lead to wedlock. If you have been in a relationship for such a long time and you’ve not witnessed these signs, that relationship isn’t the one for you and you need to take action.

It is guaranteed 99% that your relationship would end up in marriage if:

#1. There is Free Flow of Communication

A strong relationship is built mostly on communication. If the communication in the relationship is suppressed, either of the lovers will suffer from not having to speak their mind concerning a matter.

A relationship that focuses on expressing each other’s feeling, advising and encouraging each other will do far better in the future in terms of decision making and planning.

If your relationship is not allowing you to talk freely, you need to take note, it won’t lead to marriage. And even if it does, how will you cope in a marriage where the freedom to communicate with your spouse is not there?

Having a smooth conversation in a relationship helps lovers share their secrets as well as their opinions concerning a matter.

When your relationship clocks two years, these 5 things will happen

#2. Both lovers are in control

A relationship cannot be created by just one person and so, building and nurturing it needs both lovers. In a situation whereby one person is taking full charge of the relationship, it will leave the other person feeling worthless and useless in the relationship.

When both parties are in control, it will be very hard for outside forces to come in between them. Having control of your relationship will also make you taking decisions that are best for you and your partner.

#3. You both take the blame

We sometimes make mistakes in our relationships and these mistakes could get worse or lessen depending on how we handle it.
If you are in a relationship that doesn’t force much blame on you for every mistake, then be sure that it will surely head along to marriage.

A loving relationship ought not to be the type of complaint or pushing blames on the other. It supposes to be of love and sharing all the blames together.

#4. Both families are involved

A relationship that has marriage in view has to carry both families of the lovers along. What am I saying here? The parents and relatives of both the man and the woman ought to know each other very well.

When relatives of both lovers are well acquainted with each other, it will as well strengthen the relationship.

Read >>> 7 things smart ladies do to get their men marry them

#5. Frequent use of “when” not “if”

If for example, the man is always making use of the word “when” like ‘when we get married’… this shows that the relationship will eventually lead to marriage.

But making use of the word “if” like ‘if we get married’… this shows that both parties have not decided on how their relationship will go.


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